These Three Words Can Save Your Life


One of the biggest struggles I find people face when experiencing mental health issues is learning how to effectively ask for help.

To begin, it’s very difficult to admit that you have a problem. I’ve been there on three occasions where I thought I had it all figured out on my own, but I continued to struggle. It wasn’t until one day when I finally said to myself “Enough is enough!” and I stopped beating around the bush.

Previously when I asked for help, I would say things like

“Hey, how’s it going?”

“What’s up this weekend? Are you free?”

“What are you up to tonight? Want to get a drink?”

The problem is, however, that these statements are all very vague. They leave room for a lot of interpretation. Someone can read these statements and just assume that you are inquiring about a general night out on the town. Maybe they think you are bored, and are not actually suffering inside.

The problem is that someone can easily read these statements and blow you off. You need to let people know that you are suffering in order to get help.

That’s what was happening to me, and it was nobody’s fault but my own.

When I finally snapped out of it, it was out of pure frustration that nothing else was working. I knew that I was being vague and if I wanted to get the help I really needed, I needed to be clear in my ask.

Try this.

The next time you are experiencing mental health challenges and are in need of some support, simply write “I need help”, and then ask “Are you free tonight?”, and go from there.

I promise you, it’s a game changer that will dramatically help you start the process of healing.

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About me:

1) A keynote speaker on mental health and change management, I help individuals and organizations shift their mindset in the workplace to drive results and embrace change.

2) As a retired Paralympian, I am the founder of the corporate team building program, the Sledge Hockey Experience. I help people change their perspective about life and people with disabilities through sledge hockey. Visit to learn more.

It’s OK to say NO

It’s OK to say NO

As a former elite level athlete and someone who suffered a traumatic spinal cord injury, I can tell you all about what it takes to achieve both physical and mental wellness. While I am not a qualified medical professional, I do know a few things about the subject of resilience after all I’ve been through.

One of my favourite sayings is “be the HERO in your own movie”. You might think that to be a hero, you always have to push yourself to the limit, to always say “Yes!” to challenges. Because that’s what a hero does right? A hero always answers “the call.”

The reality is a true hero sometimes says “No.”

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How First Responders Can Save Their Own Lives

How First Responders Can Save Their Own Lives

Last week I read this article which stated that there are more first responder deaths by suicide than there are from those who died in the line of duty.

That is staggering to hear.

I have the pleasure of being friends with several police officers. The stories they share sometimes about their experiences can be unfathomable. They see the worst of the worst and have to go home, pretend everything is ok, and live with those memories.

When I spoke for the Ontario Provincial Police in Collingwood in 2016 for their Mental Health Symposium, it was heavy listening to other stories. One of the other speakers was Dr. Bobby Smith, a Louisiana State Trooper who was shot in the face and blinded in the line of duty.

Ask The Right Questions And You Will Get The Right Answers.

Ask The Right Questions And You Will Get The Right Answers.

I originally wrote this back in May of last year, but it’s been so popular that it’s clearly something that people want to hear more about, so I am posting again in the hopes that it can help more people who are suffering with depression, or who are starting to see some signs of depression in themselves.

 If you don’t have time to watch the video or read the full article, this is the key takeaway: If you can commit to changing one thing about your life that you’re not happy with, one step at a time, you are owning your situation, and making a personal decision to improve on it.