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THE RESILIENCE TOOLBOX

How To Develop Your Mental Resilience While Working From Home

Stop Running Away From Your Problems

Stop running away from your problems.

There’s so many of you who just want to run away as soon as a problem comes your way.

Trust me – you need to stick around.

The problem with running away, is that the problem doesn’t go away. It’s an escape and you can say “I don’t want to deal with this right now.”

Or perhaps you might say, “I’m overwhelmed”.

That’s normal.

The problem is that we think that is going to help us in the long run when in fact, it really kills us in the short-term.

The faster you deal with your problems, the faster you can get to the outcome that you’re looking for.

So the question to ask yourself today is “How can I start to deal with my problems faster? “.

Problems in your life are necessary. They’re there for a reason.

That reason might be that they’re helping direct you or sculpt you into the person you need to be or change your direction into that new future you’re looking for.

Problems exist to help make you stronger.

Avoidance is a great solution for short term pain, but it creates long term suffering. Click To Tweet

When people ask me, “Kevin, how did you get through battling suicide?” or “How did you get through rebuilding your life after the Olympics?”, I am always quick to remind you that all of these situations were difficult to go through, but have all made me stronger.

Here are three steps to help you be resilient when you are facing problems in your life.

Make A Decision

Decide on how you’re going to approach your situation and the attitude that you bring to that problem.

Say to yourself, “I’m going to deal with this. I’m going to deal with it now and I know that it’s going to be tough, but I’m going to stay here. I am going to stick around and figure out a solution today as quickly as I possibly can, because I know that if I leave this problem it’s going to live longer.”.

If you don’t decide to address the issue today, it’s going to grow to become a bigger problem in your mind.

Then the longer and the more that it does that, the more it’s going to seem insurmountable or something you don’t want to deal with, it’s going to grow.

The faster you can decide on a positive attitude to deal with your problems, the faster you can solve your problems.

The faster you can decide on a positive attitude to deal with your problems, the faster you can solve your problems. Click To Tweet

Determine Your Next Step

You may not know what that long-term solution is yet, but decide in this exact moment, “What is one step I can take towards solving my problem today?”

Ask, “What is the next best decision that will help me get to the next best decision?”.

Don’t think about solving the whole entire problem at once, but ask yourself “What can I do right now to move myself forward and in a new direction that I want to get go?”.

You may not know what that long-term solution is yet, but decide in this exact moment, "What is that one solution that I can deal with today, right now?" Click To Tweet

Be Consistent

If you need to pause and you need to step away for a bit, that’s ok, but you don’t need to run away.

Take a moment, pause, give yourself some time and a moment to reflect, then re-approach and continue to deal with your problem.

If you can, take a five minute break or do a 10 to 20 minute meditation, whatever it is to calm your mind down.

If you need a day, take a day off, but don’t let it become a week before you try and get your momentum going again.

If you pause and hit the reset button, that gives you time and a moment to reflect. Click To Tweet

If it’s relationship problems going on, like you had a fight with your spouse, you know, that might need more than five minutes to deal with, maybe you need to step back for a day or a couple of days.

Be patient and consistent in dealing with your problem and continuing to go back to it as soon as you possibly can.

Only you know what that needs to be.

In Conclusion

The longer you let problems live on, the longer they are going to take to resolve.

The sooner you display courage and face your problems head on, the sooner your confidence will grow and sooner your problem will be resolved.

Remember that problems exist for a reason…

To help you become stronger.

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Enjoyed this article? Here are three others to help you succeed:

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  1. Wow!! I am currently, writing down some advice on some information for myself on the internet, and when I wrote down, "How to Stop Running From Yourself," your website came up.
    I have been running from myself for a large portion of my life. I am 58 years old. My husband and I are separated, and have been for the past 12 years. We've brought into this world, 4 sons.
    You may think, "Why am I running from my past?" Well, I'll tell you. It all started back when I was 10. From there, it evolved into the future to where we are now.
    You see, I was forced into doing things, which a 10 year old should not have been doing in the first place. From there, it evolved into doing other things voluntarily.
    Looking back over the years, I've been beating myself up over the things, which I was either, forced into doing, or voluntarily did. Thus, I've been running ever since. I have felt the brunt of the shame all my life. I've been beating myself up over them, and keep beating myself up over things, I should have had better control over. Please, tell me, what must I do now to forgive myself for what was done to me, and what I've done to myself, and others?

    1. Hi Teresa,

      I am so happy you found this helpful, and I would love to help you further.

      I posted a few blog articles about “How to Forgive Yourself and Stop Feeling Guilty” and also “How To Practice Self Love”. I will add the links here for you.

      These exercises helped me a lot, and can be another great strategy to help you stop running away and eliminate blocks to move towards the life you want to live!

      How To Forgive Yourself And Stop Feeling Guilty: https://kevinrempel.com/blog/how-to-forgive-yourself/

      How To Practice Self Love: https://kevinrempel.com/blog/how-to-practice-self-love/

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